Take our brief wedding quiz…
Which is most important to the overall success of a wedding?
- A carefully planned menu that guests will long remember
- Impeccably coordinated clothes, decorations and flowers
- Good music that encourages everyone to dance
- A thoughtfully planned seating chart
- None of the above
- Which of the following is most likely to spoil a carefully planned wedding?
- A spill on the bridal dress right before the walk down the aisle
- Flowers arriving in the wrong color
- A cake that has insufficient servings for all of the guests
- The band/dj does not show up
- None of the above
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- If you answered 1, 2, 3, or 4 to either of the above questions, you have not given sufficient thought to the truly important components of your wedding. The correct answer to both is 5.
- The success of a wedding is about the people involved. None of the above mishaps will spoil a wedding; all are fixable or tolerable and provide the interesting stories to remember your big day. What will actually SPOIL a wedding (and perhaps the subsequent marriage) are things like a loud argument at the wedding or reception, tension among the new in–laws, excessive anxiety over the details, problematic drunkenness.
In the rush to put on the perfect event, many couples forget to focus on the emotional and relational issues that will make or break the big day. Taking just a little bit of time to address these issues, identify potential problems and devise strategies for dealing with them will have a much greater impact on the overall success of your wedding (and more importantly, the marriage) than working out catering details.
Smooth Relations was developed to take care of these needs. This service provides one or more focused counseling sessions to ensure the success of your event. These consultations will include any family members or guests who are involved in the issues.
Leigh S. Finkel, Ph.D. has a background as a clinical psychologist and has done professional counseling for over twenty years. Most important to the success of your event, Leigh is an expert in family relationships. She is able to comfortably take command of difficult family situations and smooth them out so that your event can happen without emotional snags that can destroy it.
Over the course of helping many couples through the stress of wedding planning, Leigh had been struck by how much attention was devoted to the details of the event — dress, flowers, food, music — but how little attention was given to the relationships and behavior between people that can truly spoil a once–in–a lifetime event. She has seen many people who have painful memories of their own weddings because of family disagreement or a relative acting poorly at the event. These memories seem to last long after anyone recalls the composition of centerpieces on the carefully chosen tables.
Leigh noticed that when she was able to work with a bride, couple or family during the course of the wedding planning, these types of disasters were avoided. Just a few sessions devoted to addressing the family problems no one wanted to talk about — Uncle Henry drinking too much, tension between the divorced parents, Grandma’s critical nature, resentments over the guest list, Aunt Rose’s need to steal the spotlight — seemed to make all the difference in the ultimate success of the event.
Contact Smooth Relations to arrange a consultation and have the wonderful wedding you’ve always dreamed of! Read our Frequently Asked Questions page and feel free to call or e–mail us with any further questions.
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